* Automatically wake up select() when optimistic send was not used

But only when we know that we are actually inside select() and that it
currenlty is unlikely for it to have selected the node's socket for
sending. We accept race conditions here as the select() timeout
will ensure that we always send the data.

* Don't manually call WakeSelect() in CSigSharesManager::SendMessages

Not needed anymore

* Disable optimistic send in PushMessage by default

c7e2beb scripted-diff: Refactor llmq type consensus param names (dashpay#3093) (UdjinM6)
af7bb99 Re-verify invalid IS sigs when the active quorum set rotated (dashpay#3052) (Alexander Block)
be20a71 Remove recovered sigs from the LLMQ db when corresponding IS locks get confirmed (dashpay#3048) (Alexander Block)
802a933 Don't wake up select if it was already woken up (dashpay#2863) (Alexander Block)
436300d  Disable optimistic send in PushMessage by default (dashpay#2859) (Alexander Block)
44ad484 Optimize LLMQs sending of sig shares (dashpay#2704) (Alexander Block)
e01ad46 Fix db leaks in LLMQ db (dashpay#2914) (Alexander Block)
d2a2d15 Print inputs on which we voted and quorums used for signing (dashpay#2907) (Alexander Block)
dce46ad Bail out in few more places when blockchain is not synced yet (dashpay#2888) (UdjinM6)
965a4a7 Use lazy BLS signatures more often and don't always verify self-recovered sigs (dashpay#2860) (Alexander Block)
f4a5a04 cherry pick dashpay#2889 (UdjinM6)

Pull request description:

  each commit backports a different PR

ACKs for top commit: c7e2beb
  Duddino:
    utACK c7e2beb
  Liquid369:
    utACK c7e2beb

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